The Confidence Project
The Podcast for Smart Women who doubt themselves, overthink and tend to hide in the background!
You can be the smartest woman in the room and still have the worst inner critic, causing you to doubt and second guess yourself, overthink endlessly, procrastinate, perfectionate, replay conversations in your head and hold yourself back - even when you know what you want to say and do. You miss out on opportunities in life, you don’t feel fulfilled and you think everyone else is more successful and happy than you.
In this podcast certified Lifecoach, L֥ærke Nielsen, teaches you how to start trusting your inner authority, develop strong self-belief, feel great about yourself and build the courage to speak up and move forward without second guessing yourself.
You will learn how to stop the overthinking and get out of your head, how to shift the tone of your self-talk from inner critic to inner coach, how to stop playing small and avoiding risks and how to not let fear of other people’s opinions stop you from taking actions.
This is not just a cosy self help podcast – this is an identity rewire – you are becoming a woman who fully believes in herself and who knows she is capable of creating an extraordinary life!
NB: Episodes 1-141 are from the previous Smart Women’s Dating Podcast and The Love & Confidence Podcast
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Episodes
154 episodes
152. What Does Having Your Own Back Mean?
A sweet and short episode about what having your own back actually means, some examples of it, and a 2-step method to start having your own back.
151. Dare Of The Day - How To Build Unshakeable Confidence
The Dare of The Day is the one most efficient way to build unshakeable confidence and at the same time expand your self belief and shift your identity. The exercise is very simple, but it requires you to feel any uncomfortable feeling you might...
150. The Most Important Thing In Human Life
Imagine life without feelings. What would it be worth? Humans are wired to feel, and everything we want in life is because of the way we think it will make us feel to achieve it. Its also the fear of a feeling that keeps us away from making dre...
149. Why You Are Still Single
This episode is for you if you are a woman who feels comfortable being alone, although you still want a man in your life, but this time around you are reluctant to make an effort to meet someone, because you already feel that you did too much a...
148. Unmute Yourself And Speak up!
Are you struggling with speaking up when you want to? You overthink it, wait too long and then the moment has passed. Or you know what you want to say, but something is holding you back. At some point in your life, you learnt that it was more s...
147. The Bonus Of Choosing Your Mindset Through Challenging Times
There are the challenges we choose and those we don't choose. It's easy to fall into victimhood and feel powerless, when we run into a challenge or difficulty that we didn't choose ourselves. But there is another, and much more empowering way, ...
146. Four Sneaky Ways You Demonstrate Self-Doubt
Your language and ways of expressing your thoughts and opinons can unintentionally demonstrate self-doubt to others. In this episode I share with you 4 different common ways in which you might show self-doubt and undermine your authority. I giv...
145. The Discomfort Protocol: How To Do Impossible Things In Life!
Everything that you want to achieve in life and that really matters, is on the other side of discomfort. It is impossible to achieve big goals without having to go through discomfort. Feelings like fear, anxiety, awkwardness, shame, resistance,...
144. The Real Reason Smart People Overthink - And 3 Steps To Stop It!
If you are stuck in overthinking and often postpone making decisions or taking action, this episode will is exactly what you need! You will understand why we overthink, what our brain is trying to protect us from, and what is really going on be...
143. Five Signs You Can Improve Your Life With Confidence
Confidence is not just feeling great when you walk into a room full of strangers. If you do that, you are already doing good, but how do you feel about takings risks, making decisions without overthinking, or following through on your goals? In...
142. The Gift of Gratitude & The Bonus Life! (+ NEW FOCUS on Podcast)
In this very personal episode I am sharing some thoughts and reflections I had in 2025 and moving into 2026. I am also sharing some of the changes that are coming in the podcast and in my business.
141. Something New Is Coming
The Podcast is going to take a short break and come back later in a new format and with new, exciting content. In this episode I share a few personal updates with you and leave you with a heartwarming story that shows that there is hope for all...
140. Why Safety Matters Even If You Are Strong And Independent
Feeling safe is the number one feeling most women want with a man. Not the only one of course, but it's the feeling they focus on, when I ask them what they imagine feeling once they have met their future partner. In this episode I share some r...
139. Better Off Single?
More and more women are tempted to just quit dating and give up on the idea of ever finding a man who can commit to a stable relationship. They prefer the peace of single life over an emotional roller coaster with a man who isn't capable of or ...
138. How To Recognize A Secure Person
There are some very basic traits and qualities that caracterise someone who is securely attached in a relationship. These qualities are worth looking for and also worth cultivating in yourself. In this episode I share what they are and also the...
137. Communication Challenges for Anxiously Attached
In this episode I share some reasons why anxiously attached people often struggle with clear and honest communication. I give examples on what that could look like so you can see if this is you. And then I guide you to become better at speaking...
136. Seven Acts of Self-Love
What does it mean to love yourself? And how does it show up in your choices and behavours? In this episode I share 7 ways you can choose to show up from self-love in dating.
135. A Small But VERY Important Shift In Dating
If you want to simplify your dating life, here is just ONE simple tool that you can use to assess whether a man could be a good choice for you, and you can use this tool from the very first date. This will help you to not miss out on the good g...
134. Take Charge Of Your Life
This is about how you can flip everything around and step out of your conditioning and into being in power of your life and how you see your self. It's about intentionality. How to shift from feeling out of control and in a repetitive cycle of ...
133. The Power Of Having A Life Purpose
Having that thing that you feel passionate about and that gives your life meaning and purpose is crucial for your own well being, resilience and self confidence. But it's also something that makes you more attractive in dating, turns you into a...
132. How To Not Get Into The Low-Effort Energy
Low effort energy is contageous - once you experience low effort from guys in the dating app, you eventually stop wanting to make an effort yourself. But then the problem is that you attract only low-effort people. In this episode I share wth y...
131. Why You Are Not Attracting Commitment Ready Men
If you find yourself repeatedly attracting men, that are not ready for or interested in a commitment, then the real reason might be that on a subconscious level you are not ready for the commitment yourself. In this episode I give you 3 d...
130. How To Forgive And Why It's The Best You Can Do You Yourself
What does it really mean to forgive, and what are some reasons we struggle to let go of anger and resentment? In this episode I share with you, what forgiving means and what it doesn't mean, and why forgiving is an act of self love, and I give ...
129. Six Steps To Be Happy As A Single Woman
If you are not happy in your single life, you will most likely not be happy in a relationship. Knowing how to cultivate a fun and fulfilling single life is key to attracting a healthy relationship, but also to stay balanced inside a relationshi...
128. What If I Am Not Attracted To The Good Guy?
Can you make yourself fall for someone? Or rather - can you increase chances that it will happen, if you are a good match? This is what this episode is about. Taking charge of your emotional life and facilitating attraction when its possible, a...